Low: The 7 Ways You Can Deal With Depression
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Low: The 7 Ways You Can Deal with Depression By: Cyrus Brown
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Discover the transformative power of "Low: The 7 Ways You Can Deal with Depression" by Cyrus Brown. In this eye-opening podcast episode and YouTube video, we delve into the depths of depression and explore practical strategies for overcoming this challenging mental health condition.
Join us as we discuss the seven effective ways to manage depression outlined in Cyrus Brown's comprehensive guide. Learn how self-care, personal growth, and resilience can be key components in your journey towards healing and a more fulfilling life.
In today's fast-paced society, stress has become an inevitable part of our daily lives. Explore the signs of stress and understand the role of cortisol in our bodies' response to pressure. Discover practical tips on how to reduce stress and maintain mental wellness.
Cyrus Brown's empathetic approach to mental health shines through his writing, creating a sense of understanding and connection with readers. His dedication to helping individuals navigate the complex landscape of depression is evident in every page of "Low."
Whether you are struggling with depression for the first time or seeking to deepen your existing knowledge, this book offers invaluable insights and guidance. Cyrus Brown's expertise and compassionate perspective make him a trusted guide for those seeking a path toward healing and a brighter future.
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Transcript
Hello Listeners, it's January 27, 2025. Today we're diving into a powerful new episode of The Path to Calm, where you can Stop Overthinking, Become Present, Find Peace.
Speaker:3 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:34,280 This podcast is all about helping you understand and master your emotions so they don't control you, but rather serve as guides on your journey through life's ups and downs. And today we're shining a spotlight on a book that does just that.
Speaker:5 00:00:34,280 --> 00:01:01,400 The book is called "Calm Your Emotions: Overcome Your Anxious, Negative, and Pessimistic Brain and Find Balance, Resilience, & Calm" by Nick Trenton. The audiobook is available not only on Amazon but also iTunes and Audible, so you can take this wisdom with you wherever you go. And to learn more about all of Nick's work, be sure to visit his website at bitly/NickTrenton.
Speaker:7 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:23,560 In "Calm Your Emotions" Nick guides you through the process of recognizing, responding to, and regulating the chaos in your brain. He helps you decipher emotions and teaches tools for regulation and resilience. Because let's face it - we all get knocked down by life from time to time. But that doesn't have to be the end of the story.
Speaker:9 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:44,880 So join me today on The Path to Calm as we explore some of these powerful insights from "" Let's stop overthinking and find peace together. The link to the book is bit.ly/CalmYourThoughts.
Speaker:11 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:51,560 Alex is at his girlfriend’s house when she steps out for a moment, and he notices her phone ping.
Speaker:He can’t help but see the message that flashes on the screen.
Speaker:He doesn’t read it, but he notices the long string of pink heart emojis it ends in.
Speaker:His girlfriend comes back into the room, and he scowls at her.
Speaker:Within the next five minutes, Alex’s reaction can only be described as a meltdown.
Speaker:He yells out in anger, makes vicious accusations, and then leaves in a ferocious tantrum, announcing that the relationship is over.
Speaker:That’s scenario 1.
Speaker:Scenario 2 starts the same way but ends completely differently.
Speaker:Alex sees the message and instantly notices his knee-jerk reaction.
Speaker:He feels a powerful flood of emotions—anger, jealousy, hurt, fear, disgust—but he takes a deep breath and tries to think.
Speaker:Aware that he is having this response (i.e., not completely flooded with the response), he decides to talk to his girlfriend the moment she comes in.
Speaker:He raises it with her calmly and neutrally.
Speaker:The girlfriend checks her phone and laughs.
Speaker:“It’s my sister!
Speaker:She’s telling me about this casserole she made.
Speaker:Here, look, she sent a photo.
Speaker:What can I say?
Speaker:She loves food more than she loves me!"
Speaker:Our emotions are not always reliable.
Speaker:Recall that they are geared toward ensuring the survival of our species, but that’s a goal with somewhat lesser priority in modern daily life.
Speaker:And even if, unlike Alex above, we are correct in our appraisal and our emotions are “right,” it still doesn’t mean that we need to submit to them and have them run our lives.
Speaker:Had Alex instead discovered his worst fear, for example, it would still be in his best interest to keep his cool and stay in control.
Speaker:We already know that suppressing emotions is not the answer and that you should allow yourself to feel even your darkest of feelings so that you can release them.
Speaker:But there is a time and a place for indulging in all of the emotional needs we have discussed, and sometimes you may just not be in the right situation to do so.
Speaker:So, while you are entitled to feel angry and even vengeful, it’s not a good idea to actually express that emotion—especially if expressing it would mean getting out of your car and strangling the person who’s just stolen your parking spot!
Speaker:37 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:35,520 Regulating your emotions means dealing with your emotional needs in a healthy and socially acceptable way.
Speaker:This chapter will explain how you can release your emotions in ways that won’t make you embark on a downward spiral.
Speaker:Emotions are a constant part of our lives.
Speaker:Every minute of every day, we will feel something, and our emotions can change in an instant.
Speaker:There are highs and lows that you experience every day, and how you deal with them can significantly affect your mental state and well-being.
Speaker:Your ability to regulate the vast number of emotions that you feel also affects how the people in your life perceive you.
Speaker:When you are caught up in these moments, it can be difficult to regulate your emotions and think of the consequences, but the more you do it, the more it becomes habitual.
Speaker:45 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:33,720 The first and foremost way of thinking about emotional resilience and calm is the react versus response model.
Speaker:It is succinctly summed up in the image below - Overall, emotional regulation begins and ends with this image.
Speaker:To react to a situation means a complete lack of regulation because there is no thought.
Speaker:It is impulsive, short-term thinking.
Speaker:If we touch a hot stove, we react by yanking our hand away as quickly as possible to avoid a burn.
Speaker:All we are focused on is immediate relief, and rational thought is not possible during this phase.
Speaker:To respond is to take time to consider the alternatives and make a decision based on the information you have.
Speaker:It may not always be the right one, but you won’t be acting on impulse or elevated emotions.
Speaker:This is where rational thought lives, and either healthy coping mechanisms can be utilized or the emotions are given time to process and freeze over.
Speaker:It isn’t just about controlling what you feel, but also about thinking rationally about what the best course of action is.
Speaker:It is the “gap” between stimulus and response that Frankl talks about.
Speaker:To choose our own response, we need to actually be aware of that gap and know how to take advantage of it.
Speaker:Focus less on your intense emotional impulses and more on desired outcomes and rational decisions.
Speaker:By doing so, the gap becomes bigger.
Speaker:60 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:24,520 This is obviously impossible in the case of the hot stove, but it’s very, very rare that we are encountering the emotional equivalent of a hot stove (perhaps the prospect of someone in a fit of road rage coming after you and your parking space!).
Speaker:The problem is that we continually view any transgression as something that requires an immediate reaction, and this becomes hardcoded into our habits until we are a walking volcanic reaction (and not response).
Speaker:Thus, the important part to recognize here is that you are probably so used to reacting that this chain of events cannot be mentally separated for you.
Speaker:64 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:56,280 But here’s something important to remember - You don’t have to react at all.
Speaker:66 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:04,960 Just because you have an emotion, and just because you’ve been triggered, it doesn’t mean you are compelled to act.
Speaker:Nobody is forcing you.
Speaker:69 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:14,360 Well, except habit—but conditioned responses, if we become aware of them, can be changed.
Speaker:When you wake up in the morning, you use the bathroom, brush your teeth, wash your face, and put your clothes on.
Speaker:Is it likely that you’ll forget any of these elements?
Speaker:No—because just like your emotional reactions, they cannot be mentally separated from the trigger.
Speaker:They are linked in a way that is so natural now that you cannot imagine any other way.
Speaker:Now let’s imagine an example of a fight between a couple about where to spend the holidays.
Speaker:In this situation, it may have been that you both wanted to spend the holidays with your own family and that they wanted you to spend it with theirs.
Speaker:A reaction to this might mean that you immediately discount the other person’s opinions and assume that they want to control your actions or that your family doesn’t matter.
Speaker:Without even thinking about the purpose and weight behind your partner’s words, you simply begin to throw blame, feel anger, and then pick a fight about priorities.
Speaker:(Of course, there are some emotional needs being exposed here.)
Speaker:Responding would be entirely different.
Speaker:The first step of responding is to take a moment to think and ask why.
Speaker:The answer may be that they haven’t seen their family in a far longer time.
Speaker:What if they have a family member who is in ill health?
Speaker:What if they dislike your family, as your mother always lobs passive-aggressive statements about their weight?
Speaker:This brief pause of consideration allows you to understand the other person’s perspective and allows a rational discussion where both people will be satisfied or, at the very least, a conclusion will be reached.
Speaker:86 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:10,200 When you ask why, you also start to take a closer look at your own reaction.
Speaker:You realize that you are not responding to some absolute objective picture of reality but are merely expressing your own needs, seeing through your own perspective, and trying to meet your own needs.
Speaker:And moreover, you may not even be doing this in a very effective way!
Speaker:Responding is almost never easy, but it is simple.
Speaker:Differentiating between reacting and responding is the first step toward true emotional regulation and keeping even-keeled.
Speaker:It’s the first place where self-awareness can be your best friend.
Speaker:Thank you for joining us today on this journey through "Calm Your Emotions" by Nick Trenton. If you're ready to take control of your emotional well-being, this book provides invaluable insights and practical tools to help you navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace.
Speaker:94 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:32,480 Remember, emotion is not the enemy – it's a powerful force that can be harnessed for good when we learn to understand and regulate it. By training your emotions and taming your reactive brain, you'll discover a newfound sense of freedom and purpose in your life.
